The word "divorce" originates from the Latin word "divortium", meaning separation. This Latin term is derived from "divertere," meaning "to turn aside" or "to turn in different directions". The Old French word "divorcer," also relates to separation and turning away.

Divorce can feel like you've landed on the wrong side of love - the side that's turning away from it. All relationships are a delicate dance between getting close and getting separate. And that counts as much for the relationship with yourself as it does with an intimate partner.

When people build their lives together divorce can be devastating in losing not only a beloved primary attachment person but it can unravel an entire life you built together and the dreams that went with this life. On the surface, divorce can look like the threads have been cut yet the untangling of those threads can lead in reality to a rethreading of understanding and growth.

It's one thing to lose "the love of your life" and another thing entirely to lose yourself. Even though this is one of the more excruciating painful experiences you've had in your life, it can open you to awakenings that are bigger than any you've even known. Sitting in the eye of the storm this may feel an unwanted ticket for a ride through a dark night of the soul and one you'd rather not have in the hand you were dealt. Yet as you move forward divorcing or being divorced, this journey will matter to you.

Even the most heartbreaking divorce can herald not a breakup of you so much as a breakthrough in you. Divorce can shake loose with it the lies you've lived with, melt the fears you've minimized, denied, or pushed away; and expose to your face the raw parts of you you've hidden to try to protect not to heal. Divorce makes you confront the choices you made to put others needs before your own; the living in hero mode and martyrville at the mercy of others' victim-playing and manipulation games, or perhaps you were the one in victimhood yourself. Divorce can rip open all of it, exposing lifelong "choices", repeating family and social patterns and violently and mercilessly force you to evolve, grow and expand into moving beyond the layers and layers of settling for less than what life is calling you to step into.- yes ideally it was together And maybe it was never going to happen as married.

Divorce can yes be an ending AND it can also be the beginning. What that is can begin here with someone who has journeyed this road myself and learned from what it had to teach me in becoming who I needed to be for myself.

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